Nick Savoy on giving yourself the best chance to succeed

Hey, Savoy here. Thanks Cajun for suggesting this. I’ve been teaching guys how to get good with women for almost ten years now. I’ve seen guys who figure it out very quickly, I’ve seen guys who struggled a bit at first, and I’ve seen a few who were on the point of giving up before they finally broke through and got the success and confidence with women that they deserve.

(We don’t give up on anyone at Love Systems, or let anyone give up on themselves. Our policy is “no man left behind”).

The biggest difference is knowing yourself and knowing your goals. I don’t just mean with women; I mean in general. Love Systems isn’t about pretending to be someone else; it’s about being your best self. It’s about making the most of your natural advantages. Everyone has natural advantages – if you don’t think you do, all that means is you don’t know what yours are yet or how to use them to attract women. And it’s about developing that side of you that beautiful women would find fascinating – if they only knew it was there and you could show it to them.

You can see this at the very beginning of any Love Systems program, when we talk to each guy individually about who he is and what his goals are. I was observing a bootcamp recently when I overheard one of the participants tell an instructor: “I’m 32, I’m an insurance broker but my biggest hobby is sailing. Right now I want to be able to play the field and have dates and friends with benefits with much hotter women, but I also want to keep my eyes open for my perfect soulmate if she comes along, and I’m here to make sure I know what to do if she does.” He was standing behind me, so I couldn’t see him and I didn’t know anything more about him than that. But I knew he was going to be just fine. If I’d turned around and joined the conversation and asked him what exactly he was looking for in a soulmate, I’m sure he’d know and be able to tell me. He might be ugly, poor, have horrible habits and body language and so on, but it wouldn’t have mattered. When you know yourself and your (reasonable) goals, then it’s just a tactical problem of how to get there. That’s the easy part.

To paraphrase Stephen Covey – “If you don’t know where you’re trying to go … or what it will look like when you get there …. then your odds of success will be very small”. Or, in a Love Systems context – I’ll get you to the top of the mountain…that’s my job and my guarantee. But I need you to tell me what mountain you want to climb. I can’t pick the mountain for you.

If you have work to do in this area, then put down your copy of the Magic Bullets Handbook for a minute and grab a notepad and go for a walk. What do you want your life to be like in 1 year? In 5 years? In 10 years? How does your dating and sex life fit into that? Will you need to improve your dating and pickup skills? In what areas? How do you plan to take care of that? Make a plan – and stick to it. Just asking yourself those questions – and answering them – will set you way ahead of the competition.

Good luck!

-Nick Savoy

So, this is very last minute but there is a conference call this Wednesday night, June 2nd at 9pm EST and 6 PST. It’s Savoy and I taking questions about body language. I have a body language dvd set coming out soon and this is part of the promotion so it’s absolutely free and should be a hilarious time. So POP OPEN A FUCKIN BEER, RIP OPEN A BAG OF THE BLOODIEST BEEF JERKY, IT’S TIME TO GET RIPPED TO THE TITTIES AND TALK ABOUT HOW TO MOVE OUR BODIES!!!!

You can sign up here:

http://www.lovesystems.com/misc/body-language-conference-call

Check it:  here the other parts are linked in the video.

Is dating science becoming more tolerated in the media? Discuss.

First one was with Attraction Blogs.com and just went up a couple days ago. It’s a great interview because they actually asked some really interesting questions, and tried to stay away from generic stuff that everyone asks me. Check it out here: Interview with Cajun from Love Systems.

The second interview was actually a phone interview that was later written into a piece for TSB magazine, It’s in three parts, but I think they should all be up by now. It’s probably my favourite article ever written about me for this stuff as it really tries to capture a bit more of my personal character in it, which isn’t always easy to do. It also has an awesome title. You can read it here: Spice up your life with Cajun: Part I of the TSB spotlight of the Love Systems badass

Let me know what you think!

Yoooo!

My good friends and fellow LS instructors Braddock & Mr. M have finally released their long awaited phone and text game book, it’s called “The Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game” and believe me when I say: It’s a monster.

This is literally the be-all and end-all of phone and text game advice, not only are Braddock and Mr. M the best guys at phone and text game that I know (and I know some GOOD fucking guys) but they’ve also been writing this for TWO FUCKING YEARS. They’re also perfectionists and you can bet that they took those two years to make sure absolutely everything is covered in the book. If you have a phone, and you use it to call and text women, then you need this book. It will pay for itself in sex, believe me. Here’s a freebie tip from the book for ya:

Phone and Text Game Routine – Fortifying the Beaches

In the book The Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game you can read a new trick to make a phone number more solid. What that mean is that the girl is more likely to respond to your first call or text message. The technique is called Fortifying The Beaches and it will be described in this article.

The first thing you have to do is get her phone number.  So a few minutes after you get her phone number, you continue the conversation.

A few minutes later you pretend you received a text message but you are actually going to send her a text message. The first text will be something playful and flirty. It can be something like:

“Hey this cute girl is talking to me, but I don’t know how to flirt with her.  Help?”

If you can use any references to your conversation, that would be even better. This is also called callback humor which is more explored in the book.

In most cases the girl will check her phone and she will see you texted. Now you have to pretend like you know nothing about it and you just keep the conversation going. She will usually text you back something funny and you can do this flirting back and forth while you both pretend nothing is happening.

What is so great about this is that you two already have a bunch of text messages going back and forth even before you two go separate ways. So the next day when you text her, you don’t complete start cold because you two already communicated over text.

This technique will make a lot of your phone numbers solid and having girls respond to your initial text message the next day.

For more tips and tricks likes these, check out The Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game

1. This is my personal list and is therefore correct no matter what you think.

2. Ranking is not based purely on looks. There are other factors which will be explained for each choice.

3. This list is based on female rockers in their prime, not necessarily present day versions of them, but I’ll probably get into that too.

4. I don’t care how hot they are, if their music sucks shit then so do they.

Alright, good. So who made the number five spot?

#5

Emmylou Harris

Now, most people would argue that Emmylou Harris isn’t rock at all, and they’re kind of right; Emmylou did mostly folk and country songs. But she also played with groups like The Band and Neil Young, who very much ARE rock, and are also two of my all-time favourite in the genre. This allows her to be eligible through association, but also because she’s fucking hot. Actually, young Emmylou Harris wasn’t really that amazingly hot, I mean she definitely had the girl next door thing going on, and I would definitely make a move on a girl that looked as hot as she did, but compared to the others on this list, she’s pretty plain.

The reason she’s on this list is because she has one quality that is ideally suited for it; she’s aged amazingly. In fact she may be the hottest old lady I’ve ever seen next toJessica Lange about 10 years ago. Look at this shit:

Keep in mind she’s about 63, even up close in HD she looks good. She’s actually an extremely talented performer as well, listen to her perform Evangeline, a song coincidentally about my people; the Acadians, with The Band. Sexy voice!

Her prime year? I actually think she got hotter as she got older, so whenever this picture was taken:

Would I do her now? Most definitely. It’s not really even for the glory on this one either, I mean there would be a lot of glory involved, but I’d probably enjoy this one just for the mad gilf-dom.

#4

Stevie Nicks

The front woman of one of my favourite bands of all time; Fleetwood Mac. Fleetwood Mac is kind of a guilty pleasure because its a band that everybody seems to like and they tend to get a tremendous amount of recognition and praise, a lot more than I think they deserve considering they really only had a couple of good albums while they were together (Although rumours is a fucking masterpiece). But this list isn’t about ranking bands for their contribution, it’s about HOT WOMEN! And Stevie really had that shit going for her.

Unfortunately, when the mac broke up and she went solo in the 80?s she gained some weight and decided to embrace the 80?s style of overdoing everything along with incorporating some weird black magic wicca aspect into her image that just made her come across as creepy.

With Stevie I’d say her youngest years are her best, early to mid 70?s being her hottest years, actually I’d say she was more attractive in her Buckingham Nicks days even though nobody really knows her from that period. She seemed to get more and more fucked as the years went on, and it’s evident in her style, demeanor and music.

Would I still do her now?

She’s aged pretty decently compared to some of the other women on this list, and has that “my friend’s mom” kind of look to her. Although she still has that cold, crazy bitch look on her face all the time, which scares me. She seems like someone who might kill you in your sleep, or use you as some sacrifice in a spell for an evil entity or something. It would be cool to fuck a sorceress though, so yeah, if I had a few drinks I would probably go for it.

#3

Joan Jett

Oh yeah, the reigning queen of balls to the wall female rockers. Joan Jett has no competition when it comes to being a physical manifestation of every male (and female!) hard rock fan’s wet dream. Thekind of woman that would pull up in a trans-am, scowl at you as she emerges from the car in black leather, take a long drag of her cigarette, grab the back of your head, kiss you violently, exhale her drag, then punch you in the face. Fuck I just got a boner…

Jett gets bonus points for NEVER selling out, and being true to herself her entire career. Joan Jett is Joan Jett, she isn’t a constructed image, or a gimmick to sell records, she’s herself, and that makes her even hotter.

Her prime year would probably be when she left the Runaways and went solo, so around 1979. Unfortunately she was also affected by the 80?s and managed to overdue things a bit later on, even for her.

Would I still do her now?

Well, I almost did a couple years ago. If I had another chance though…uhh she would probably be my last pick out of all the women on this list in their current forms, but that’s only because I’m not really into women that are built like a brick fuckin shit-house.

But yeah if I had the chance again, I’d probably do it.

#2

Debbie Harry

Oh man! Debbie Harry, the lead singer of the influential 70?s pop band “Blondie”, is one of the most iconically beautiful women of the past few decades. If you look at the hipster movement today, or any of those American Apparel ads plastered on bus stops and subways that seem to have been inspired by it, it’s easy to see the influence she’s had on several generations of women and popular culture. Blondie transcended a number of different genres going from candy coated pop to funk infused reggae and eventually even rap, yes you read that correctly, and I’ve yet to see a white girl to this day attempt that professionally. Blondie inspired and really pushed forward the idea that a leading woman in a band could do more than simply look pretty; although Debbie was great at that too.

Why she’s on my list: Her contribution to music and popular culture alone would be enough to warrant it, but did I mention she’s FUCKING HOT. Look at this!

She also has that feminine confidence that really translates well through her pictures and her music, something I personally find incredibly attractive. She’s pretty down to earth in interviews too, and seems like someone you could just go have a drink with. If were talking prime years here I’d say 1978; that’s when Blondie first started getting a lot of mainstream success and when she was probably her hottest.

Would I still do her now?

Oh man, she’s pretty old. Still looks amazing for her age mind you, but she’s got this Anne Murray thing going on now with her look that, frankly, disgusts me to the point of inverting my penis. Having said that, yeah I’d still probably go for it given the opportunity…FOR THE GLORY!

UPDATE: Apparently she just got a bunch of surgery done and looks pretty hot.

#1

Ann & Nancy Wilson

Fuck yeah! I picked 2! They’re sisters and they’re both in the same band, so I can only give them one spot —- BON(er)US!!

Ann & Nancy Wilson are of course, the two defining members of the band Heart, and there was a time when they were the two hottest women on the planet, no joke. Most people associate Heart with their 80?s image and picture these two extremely 80?s corporate looking jokes of hotness. It’s almost as if they were making fun of themselves because in the 70?s when they were doing their own thing they were fucking AMAZINGLY hot.

Ann doesn’t really photograph as well as Nancy, but watch her in motion in this video:

Now not only were Ann & Nancy both ridiculously hot in the 70?s, but they could also fucking ROCK. I’m actually more enamoured with Ann because she has this incredibly attractive way of expressing herself when she sings, it’s like a confidence thing, like she doesn’t care if she makes ugly face expressions because she’s just singing as hard as she can. Crazy hot! She’s also basically the female equivalent of Robert Plant, who most would agree is the most impressive rock singer of all time. I’ve heard Heart cover Zeppelin, and it rocks, Ann can almost out-Plant Plant. Not that Heart didn’t have a number of their own rockin songs, check this one out, and I dare you to not fall in love with Ann by the end:

Prime year: I’d say 1976, that’s the year the two videos above were from. Ann doesn’t have too many years when she was crazy hot, she teetered back and forth with her weight and her looks, so her prime years are more like prime months of certain years. It gets really complicated in the 80?s, then in the 90?s she ballooned and it just gets ugly.

Would I do them now?

Uhhh, well Nancy is married to Cameron Crowe, who made Almost Famous, one of my favourite films so I can’t really have her out of respect. But Ann…yeah Ann is still pretty big, but I think she got her stomach snipped or something so maybe she’s lost a bunch of weight and is hot again. It’s always a gamble with Ann…but yes I would go for it, she’s too much of a legend not to.

Who did I miss?

YOOOOOOOOOOooooooooooooooo!

Been a while since I posted, summers are always super busy for me and I tend to spread myself out thin, sorry about that guys. I am very excited right now though, as I get to announce that I WILL BE GOING TO THE PLAYBOY MANSION ON AUG 15-16th for an advanced bootcamp with Savoy!

Why is this so special? Oh let me count the ways…

1. It’s the fucking PLAYBOY MANSION: Sure it’s not the 70?s anymore but this is still one of the most prestigious and ballin-est places to party. There’s going to be loads of playmates, models and gorgeous women to talk to who are all there for the same reason: TO PARTY AT THE PLAYBOY MANSION! Stating that women would simply be more open to sex here would be an understatement; they’ re EXPECTING it!

2. You got the most qualified seducers in the world there to help you: Savoy has dated multiple playmates i’m sure, the guy seems to be with a new model every time I see him, he’s also one of the best sexual escalators I’ve ever seen in action. I’ve dated a playboy model and seduced loads of other high profile women including (Canadian) top models and rock stars. We know what were doing and we’re gonna be there for a whole weekend showing you exactly how it’s done.

3. Advanced Seminar portion: Savoy is leading the seminar which is a rare treat. He doesn’t do it very often since he’s so busy but he’s one of the best teachers out there, maybe the best I’ve ever seen. Believe me when I say you’re going to learn some advanced stuff you wouldn’t get anywhere else. I’ll be teaching my “super secret routine” which in itself will let you ACE every date you go on and double the amount of women in you’re life! If you thought keys to the vip was impressive, wait until you see what I’ve learned in the 2 years since that was filmed. Keys will be a mickey mouse cartoon compared to the xxx shit you’re going to see us pull at the mansion.

4. Legendary Status: How would you like to brag to your buds (or your future children) that you got to party at the playboy mansion with some of the top seducers in the world? The mansion has been doing fewer and fewer parties over the years and there’s talk that they may stop altogether in the future. This may be one of your last chances to have this opportunity! Think of your children!

Go to www.lovesystems.com to sign up if you’re interested. Seats won’t last long, believe me.

Since our last European tour went so well, me and Tenmagnet have decided to do another one! This time:

Amsterdam – Mar 20-22

Barcelona – Apr 10-12

We’ll also be doing Sydney, Australia with our good friend and fellow instructor Soul who has a day game seminar the very next day on Apr 6th. If you’re around and would like to finally get this area of your life handled then be sure to sign up at www. lovesystems.com

The Impossible task

I mentioned in the last article that the three step process to changing your life is:

1. Visualize how your life could be better

2. Figure out what you need to do in order to accomplish that.

3. Commit yourself to doing it.

Numbers 1 and 3 are fairly straight forward, but number 2 can create some problems. Obviously, if it were as easy as simply figuring out what we needed to do we would have done it already!  The problem here lies in our innate human habit of over complicating large tasks. We tend to look at the final outcome as our main task instead of concentrating on the preliminary goals. I’ll give you an example that I’m sure everyone can relate to.

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you were faced with a large sink full of dishes that you were responsible for cleaning? Now, if you’re anything like me, the very thought of having to wash a sink full of dishes is enough to ruin your entire day. You dwell on it, you think about how annoying it is, and you put it off as long as you possibly can. This used to drive my roommate crazy as I would often leave my sink full of dishes for days on end, always consoling myself from this burden by pushing the task into a perpetual I’ll just do them later status. Of course after a while, either because of the stench, the need to use your dishes, or in my case, the wrath from your roommate, you push yourself kicking and screaming into the kitchen to do your goddamn dishes. Such is life. However! What if there was no negative reinforcement pushing you to do those dishes? No roommate, no need of dishes, no stench, no burden, would you still do them? Probably not.

In life, there are no negative reinforcements to drive us to obtaining our goals aside from our own discontent, and even that can be subdued quite easily. It’s quite easy to put our dreams on the back burner while we pretend to take care of the things that ARE giving us negative reinforcement. So how are we supposed to motivate ourselves to embark on this impossible task of obtaining our dreams? Before I answer that I want to relate to you the best advice I’ve ever received.

Being in the business of giving advice it’s not hard for me to look back and truly discern what has been some of the best advice given to me. I’ve realized now that the best advice given to me was actually something I had learned in driving school. I asked my instructor What do we do if a moose jumps in front of us on the highway? (a very real threat driving in Canada!) My teacher said Look away from it, because you move in the direction you’re looking at.

You move in the direction you’re looking. That’s the truest thing there is about life, and its the answer to the question I proposed. If we give ourselves a goal and we keep focusing on it, working on it like a problem bit by bit, then eventually we solve it. That’s the way the human mind works and its the reason we have what we have in the world today. To go back to the dish scenario proposed earlier, the easiest way to motivate yourself to do those dishes isn’t to think of having to do a WHOLE sink full of dishes, it’s to tell yourself to only do one dish, commit to it, and once you’re there focusing on washing that one dish, it’s not hard to do one more, and then one more and so on.

I’ll end this article with a story my father told me a when I was a little kid that illustrates this idea of how to handle an impossible task. As a teenager he had wanted a motorcycle very badly for a long time and his father, knowing this, eventually got him one for his birthday, however, he didn’t just give it to him. A few days after his birthday his father took him out to the garage and told him that he needed him to do something for him. Inside the garage was a motorcycle that he told my father he needed to be taken apart, everything, screw by screw. It took my father 3 long days but he eventually had the motorcycle completely disassembled. When his father came back to check on his work, he looked everything over, nodded and said Ok, put it all back together and its yours.

It took him 2 years to put that motorcycle back together. Now you may think that what his father did was cruel but even my father admits now it was the best lesson he’s ever been taught, not only did he never have to rely upon a mechanic again, but he also learned a valuable life lesson: that even the most impossible tasks are achievable if you keep working at them, one screw at a time…

Are you in control of your life? Most people would answer yes to that question even though they’d be surprised to know just how much of their life is controlled by others. Are you working your dream job? Are you living in the one place you’ve always wanted to live? Have you found the woman (or women) that completes you? If you do not have, or are not working towards these things, then I’m sorry, you’re not in control of your life. But why? Maybe you have kids and your focus has turned to them, that’s fair, but wouldn’t the best example you could set for your kids be to have them know that you worked towards YOUR dreams and never settled for anything less? So why aren’t we taking control of our lives? The answer is simple; Fear.

There are two types of people in this world: creators and acceptors. Think of it as a spectrum. Creators manifest the world around them, they exist in their own reality and tend to ignore things that do not agree with it. Creator’s will almost always take their own advice over someone else’s and tend to have a bit of an ego and a problem with authority. A creator’s sole purpose in life is to accomplish their goals; however impossible they may be, and as long as they remain focused, they will usually accomplish them. In essence, creators see reality as a piece of clay they can mold to their liking. Acceptors are the exact opposite in a lot of ways.

Acceptors tend to believe that reality is much more structured and concrete; there are rules that need to be followed. They accept and believe in common sense and that which is told to them by authority figures and the media (in general). They have dreams just like creators, but have learned to either accept them as illogical or unrealistic; or alter them to become obtainable in their structured logical view of reality. An acceptor’s reality is ruled by fear, the fear of being an outcast, the fear of the repercussions from breaking the rules, or maybe even the fear that they’re completely wrong. The funny thing is that almost everybody starts out as a creator.

So which one are you? Remember how I said to think of this as a spectrum? Well you may find that you have qualities of both. As children we start off as creators, we believe that the world is our oyster; we can be and do anything we want. As we get older, we are pressured by those around us to conform to the logical structures of our economic society; we go to college, we get a respectable job, we pay our taxes. Since our view of reality is shaped by our experiences, which in turn shape our beliefs, we start to believe that this new reality is the only one and that our childhood dreams were just that, dreams. So we abandon them…and we become bitter.

Let me tell you something, never accept a reality in which your dreams are impossible. There are only two ways you can live your life: by your own rules, or by someone else’s. Whose do you follow? Let me relate to you a personal experience of mine that illustrates this very conflict.

There was a time in my life, much like everybody else, where I was forced to get a job I didn’t like in order to survive. I was fresh out of film school, and after a series of failed careers in the film industry I resorted to applying to a sales job so I could pay the bills while I searched for my real dream job. I quickly realized that working 8 hours a day and trying to fit in a social life left little time for me to search for my dream job and even if I did find it would I have enough free time to even work towards obtaining it? Faced with this as well as the growing bitterness I had towards my sales job I gave myself an ultimatum: Either go after a job you actually want or resort to working a job you hate and hope that someday something better comes along. Now, this wasn’t just one of those moments where I decided to quit my job for something better, no, I had full intention to resort to living on the street before I’d work another job that I hated. So what happened?

I went a whole year without a job. The whole time I was completely content even though I always had bills and rent looming over my head. I figured that if things turned REALLY bad, I could always pack up my bowie knife, hatchet and survival kit and go out and live in the woods off the grid where I’d probably be happier anyways. There was many a day when my roommate would sit me down, ask me how much money I had, and then ask how I intended to pay rent (which was usually due a few days later) I would always answer the same way; I don’t know with a mischievous smile. The strange thing is that every month something would happen that would enable me to pay my bills and rent. Government screwed up taxes in my favour, win on a lottery ticket I got for my birthday, win a film festival I didn’t even know I entered. It was always something, and I never once doubted that I wouldn’t be able to cover my bills, I always just believed that things would work themselves out. At the end of that year I had the job that I wanted (same one I have now) and felt great knowing that not even the economic pressures of reality stopped me from obtaining it.

Now, I’m not saying that you should go and quit your job and everything will be fine and dandy, obviously that’s a stupid idea. What I’m saying is that you shouldn’t let fear make your decisions for you. DO NOT ACCEPT the negative things that are running your life. There’s 3 steps to getting your life where you want it to be:

1.Visualize how your life would be better.

2.Figure out what you need to do in order to accomplish that.

3.Commit yourself to doing it.

Understand that you’re going to have to overcome self-induced hurdles at every one of those steps. Rationalization is going to creep in and scale back your goals, doubt will claw at your confidence and fear will drive you to abandon. Expect these things to happen, and be stronger than them. You’re working towards obtaining your own happiness and nothing should stop you in your pursuit of that, not even your own logic.

Stay tuned for the second part of this article where I will go over how to manage the impossible task of achieving your desires.